Any fellow Valentines Day losers here?

[gamma626]

I've gotten a reminder about how much work women take over the past few weeks. I figured I was going to marry this girl, and I go on twitter and she's constantly complaining. I just went "If you have a problem, be a normal fucking human and let's talk. complaining on the internet will never solve anything."

So yeah, SINGLE LIFE FTW!

[JSmith]

I've gotten a reminder about how much work women take over the past few weeks. I figured I was going to marry this girl, and I go on twitter and she's constantly complaining. I just went "If you have a problem, be a normal fucking human and let's talk. complaining on the internet will never solve anything."

So yeah, SINGLE LIFE FTW!

yeah, I know exactly what you mean.

A lot of women can act passive aggressive and spiteful over things that could be completely unrelated. They wont just come out and say what their problem is. I think sometimes they like to keep their issues going, just so they have something to complain about.

There was a time I got sick of a girl right from the beginning when she couldnt make up her mind where she wanted to meet me on a first date and she shot down every suggestion I made, but kept asking me to decide. I just stopped replying to her texts.

[Blinx123]

I've gotten a reminder about how much work women take over the past few weeks. I figured I was going to marry this girl, and I go on twitter and she's constantly complaining. I just went "If you have a problem, be a normal fucking human and let's talk. complaining on the internet will never solve anything."

So yeah, SINGLE LIFE FTW!

WTF dude?
Aren't you like 21?
Isn't that a tad early to ruin one's life? I figure, one should at least have sex 10 times before signing a legal agreement never to have sex again (what marriage comes down to )

[Misanthropic75]

WTF dude?
Aren't you like 21?
Isn't that a tad early to ruin one's life? I figure, one should at least have sex 10 times before signing a legal agreement never to have sex again (what marriage comes down to )

If you marry the wrong person, then you will never have sex again...lol. I am married and have way more sex than my single friends. Some of my wife's friends think having sex once a week is a lot, which I smell a divorce coming for those couples.

And I definitely wouldn't recommend getting married before the age of 30, I think 35 is more realistic. Go out and F everything that moves while you are young, and travel a lot...then get married.

[gamma626]

WTF dude?
Aren't you like 21?
Isn't that a tad early to ruin one's life? I figure, one should at least have sex 10 times before signing a legal agreement never to have sex again (what marriage comes down to )

I didn't say it was my idea. One of those "OMG WE'RE DATING LETS GET MARRIED! WOO!" girls man. So... I dunno. I was under the spell of dat ass yo!

[Snadinator]

I've been with my wife for 13 years. We were 16 when we met. I wouldn't trade any of it. Lust is the first thing that goes in a long term relationship. You need something far more potent than the promise of sex to keep a relationship strong. That's friendship, open communication and mutual respect. When one is down, the other quickly becomes strong and firm. When times are hard, you find comfort and solace in each other's company. My wife is also my best friend. She supports all I wish to do and I do so for her. I couldn't imagine being alone.

So while designated holidays are exploited to get people spending, you don't need to break the bank to remind your significant other you care. If you have to, your with the wrong person.

[Snadinator]

If you marry the wrong person, then you will never have sex again...lol. I am married and have way more sex than my single friends. Some of my wife's friends think having sex once a week is a lot, which I smell a divorce coming for those couples.

And I definitely wouldn't recommend getting married before the age of 30, I think 35 is more realistic. Go out and F everything that moves while you are young, and travel a lot...then get married.

To be mature and honest, sex once a week when you've been in a long term relationship, where both in the couple work full time jobs, is a lot. When a relationship is new, it's not much at all.

If you happen to have it more often and been together for a long time, good for you, your two horny bunnies. Do not mistake that for a healthier relationship than those who do not. It's not indicative at all. Case in point, some of the best sex I've had was during a serious fight.

[Badger3920]

So while designated holidays are exploited to get people spending, you don't need to break the bank to remind your significant other you care. If you have to, your with the wrong person.

And let's be honest. Usually the notion of valentines day is blown out of proportion. People complain about the $999 hallmark cards, roses 500% over market price, etc etc etc.

Valentines day is not necessarily that. Instead, it can be a reminder to take a moment out and remember that you care, and remind your partner that of that. In my opinion, a reminder to go out for dinner (or cook) and share a bottle of champagne and a night together is NOT a bad thing. When two busy people are together, it's pretty easy to forget to do those things, and how fun they are.

To be mature and honest, sex once a week when you've been in a long term relationship, where both in the couple work full time jobs, is a lot. When a relationship is new, it's not much at all.

Been with my fiance 6 years and I'm still sad about the prospect of once a week, but I'm willing to acknowledge that it may eventually be a reality even if things are better than that right now.

[Snadinator]

And let's be honest. Usually the notion of valentines day is blown out of proportion. People complain about the $999 hallmark cards, roses 500% over market price, etc etc etc.

Valentines day is not necessarily that. Instead, it can be a reminder to take a moment out and remember that you care, and remind your partner that of that. In my opinion, a reminder to go out for dinner (or cook) and share a bottle of champagne and a night together is NOT a bad thing. When two busy people are together, it's pretty easy to forget to do those things, and how fun they are.




Been with my fiance 6 years and I'm still sad about the prospect of once a week, but I'm willing to acknowledge that it may eventually be a reality even if things are better than that right now.

Heh don't worry about it. It might happen, it might not. It's not because you like the person less. It's not entirely the ladie's fault either. It just doesn't feel as necessary as it was in the earlier infatuation years. If the relationship progresses well, you grow more secure with each other. You have less of a need to prove yourself. However you don't want to get complacent either. With both working a full time career, it's easy to get complacent. My wife and I make Friday's a date night. Thursday's are take out night (no one cooks).

And anyhow, I once read a study about how women with a higher IQ have it less and do it better. Quality vs Quantity.

[twonunpackmule]

Valentines day is not necessarily that. Instead, it can be a reminder to take a moment out and remember that you care, and remind your partner that of that. In my opinion, a reminder to go out for dinner (or cook) and share a bottle of champagne and a night together is NOT a bad thing. When two busy people are together, it's pretty easy to forget to do those things, and how fun they are.

I think that's a perfectly healthy way of looking at it. I just don't understand people who take it seriously. Like, I've witnessed and been on the backend of anger because of a missed holiday. It just doesn't make sense to me.

[Snadinator]

Few tips for getting some with long term relationships...

1) Do your part around the house. #1 reason it doesn't happen as often as it should is fatigue. Work, Commute, chores, etc... Don't be a man from 1955. This is 2012. Do dishes, help with supper, help with cleaning etc... Don't expect your wife to have any energy for you if you sit on your ass and make her do everything.

2) Don't plan to do it when you're about to go to bed. By then your both tired and sleeping is more interesting.
Get it over earlier and then go watch tv or something for the remainder of the night.

3) Stop watching porn. It doesn't do you any good to have unreasonable expectations. Save it for the real deal.

4) Get interested in her activities. Participate where possible.

I can think of more I'm sure but those are the most important if you ask me.

Anyways I don't want to come off as a know it all. There is no normal when it comes to frequency. There is only what you are and aren't content with. It's laughably immature when others try to gloat or attempt to make others less secure in their relationship by saying their frequency is abnormal. I've known couples that could go months without doing it and they were as happy as a couple could be.

[project-blu]

Not married. Live-in GF for..what...3+ years now. once a week? yeah, nothing close to that. 2x a month she thinks is generous. we get along better with more, but ya know, it doesn't happen, and she only ever solicits me or is "in the mood" when she's on crimson tide, and i fucking WILL NOT GO THERE.

shit varies, folks. i will say a healthy sex life is conducive to a healthy relationship, but should not be the foundation.

[Snadinator]

Not married. Live-in GF for..what...3+ years now. once a week? yeah, nothing close to that. 2x a month she thinks is generous. we get along better with more, but ya know, it doesn't happen, and she only ever solicits me or is "in the mood" when she's on crimson tide, and i fucking WILL NOT GO THERE.

shit varies, folks. i will say a healthy sex life is conducive to a healthy relationship, but should not be the foundation.

Have you tried talking to her about it? Sounds like it's insuficient for you but normal for her.

[Badger3920]

I think that's a perfectly healthy way of looking at it. I just don't understand people who take it seriously. Like, I've witnessed and been on the backend of anger because of a missed holiday. It just doesn't make sense to me.

Oh totally agreed. Holidays don't warrant hostility unless you blow a big holiday in a big way, which indicates to someone that you don't think about them or dont care. Valentines day is not up to the same level as Xmas in that category though. Forgetting to bring flowers is not the same as forgetting xmas is arriving and not buying her a gift.

Few tips for getting some with long term relationships...

1) Do your part around the house. #1 reason it doesn't happen as often as it should is fatigue. Work, Commute, chores, etc... Don't be a man from 1955. This is 2012. Do dishes, help with supper, help with cleaning etc... Don't expect your wife to have any energy for you if you sit on your ass and make her do everything.

2) Don't plan to do it when you're about to go to bed. By then your both tired and sleeping is more interesting.
Get it over earlier and then go watch tv or something for the remainder of the night.

3) Stop watching porn. It doesn't do you any good to have unreasonable expectations. Save it for the real deal.

4) Get interested in her activities. Participate where possible.

I can think of more I'm sure but those are the most important if you ask me.

Anyways I don't want to come off as a know it all. There is no normal when it comes to frequency. There is only what you are and aren't content with. It's laughably immature when others try to gloat or attempt to make others less secure in their relationship by saying their frequency is abnormal. I've known couples that could go months without doing it and they were as happy as a couple could be.

VERY interesting post, and much appreciated to hear the thoughts of others on the subject. I think #1 is really the key to the whole thing with everything else being secondary. There was actually a recent study that came out noting that women had a lot more sex or were more in the mood when their surroundings (house) was clean

Have you tried talking to her about it? Sounds like it's insuficient for you but normal for her.

In that sort of case, maybe establishing more of a routine would help? Like a day of the week when you guys both usually have a free evening.

[twonunpackmule]

Well, I also don't celebrate Christmas. Which is hard for others to respect. I don't hold against others though for taking that one seriously. That I understand.